5 Tips on How to Handle Big Dicks: A Comprehensive Guide to Enjoyable Sex

You come across this guy, and you two immediately hit it off. He's everything you could want: powerful, attractive, cute, funny, brilliant, the whole nine yards. You start making out, things are going great, and it's hard to believe this is finally happening. After exchanging touches, your shirts come off, followed by your bra and slacks, and then you're hit with an alarming realization…

He has an ENORMOUS dick.

Maybe it's longer than you're used to. Perhaps it's too broad. Maybe it's both, making it even more terrifying. You pause and think, "This is a straight-up porn star dick. How am I supposed to handle all of this?"

First of all, do not panic. Take a big breath. Big dicks happen on anyone, regardless of body type and size. Pseudoscience has attempted to relate dick size to shoe size or height, but those conclusions have all proven false. The only guess that's proven to be at least remotely true is that the ratio of the index finger to the ring finger can predict penis size (hard to believe, isn't it?).

Even so, you won't know until their pants are off, unless you're measuring your partner's index finger (but really, that leads to an awkward conversation about why you're inspecting their hands). However intimidating it may be, there's no need to turn around and flee. With some information and a bit of advice from us, you'll be working that extra-large dick in no time.

Fitting a Big Dick Inside You

Being intimate with someone with a bigger-than-average penis can be pretty intimidating, but should you let insecurities like that get in the way of having a good time? You don't have to attempt complicated acrobatic manoeuvres when having sex with someone with a giant dick, nor do you have to be afraid.

There's plenty you can do to handle a big dick comfortably, or to give one a blow job. Although it might seem complicated, it's pretty easy to do proper foreplay and allow yourself time for arousal and relaxation. To make it even easier, work with good sex moves, positions, and tricks that let you take in a large penis with no discomfort.

That said, never forget that everybody is unique and that vaginas and penises come in various sizes. If you feel pain, stop immediately. Pay attention to your body's signals and don't push yourself past your limits, because pain is your body's warning that an injury could be right around the corner.

You can always go back and try again with new methods another time. If you're experiencing pain or discomfort, pause, slow down, apply lubrication, or return to foreplay and excitement as your vaginal muscles relax. Allow your body to warm up gradually at its own rate, and you'll find you can take your partner's penis with much less discomfort.

Sometimes your partner might remind you that a vagina can push out a baby, so taking a large penis should be an easy feat. But your body creates hormones to support childbirth, and there can still be issues, such as vaginal tears. Each vagina has a different degree of "stretchiness"; some partners can be "too big" to fit completely. Try to recognize your body's signals of pain and discomfort, and don't push past your boundaries. It's possible it won't work out, and that's okay. There are many other things you can do for fun besides penetration.

The Importance of Foreplay

Foreplay is the best way to get yourself and your partner aroused. Preparing yourself is very important, especially when taking in a big penis. Your pelvic muscles and vaginal walls naturally expand when you're turned on and excited, which makes it easier to fit a larger penis.

Spend a fair amount of time touching, positioning each other, and discovering one another's bodies. Be imaginative and allow yourself to feel calm and stimulated. You'll thank us later, because foreplay can often be as stimulating as sex! With smaller penises you might be able to take it right away, but if you try to insert a larger penis before you're ready, it will hurt or be downright tricky.

Start by exploring your erogenous zones through mutual masturbation, making out, touching, stroking, grinding, or even an erotic massage. To warm up, you can also look into oral sex. Use fingers, vibrators, or other sex toys to encourage the relaxation, arousal, and expansion of your vaginal walls.

Toys are a fantastic way to make your sexual experience extra stimulating. A vibrator is a terrific way to get in the mood and warm your body before sex. Our favourite, and possibly the most popular, is the Magic Wand, which can help you get warmed up and relax your pelvic floor muscles to make room, and let you experience orgasm during sex (or any other time!). You have a wide range of options to match your needs and your partner's, so don't limit yourself to what you already know—explore all the possibilities.

Big Penises and Blowjobs

When it comes to blowjobs, you might discover that oral sex with a big dick is unlike anything you've had before. You might not be able to fit the entire thing in your mouth, and that's not a problem. You don't need to push past your limits and try to take the whole penis inside; that's not what blowjobs are always about. The tip of the penis (especially if your partner is uncut) is considerably more sensitive than the shaft, so you can focus on the head while giving a blow job to someone with a big penis.

Try working the tip by licking up and down the shaft, rotating your tongue around the head, and using your hands (coated with spit) as a mouth substitute. Use your hands, lips, and tongue to create wet, enveloping, suctioning sensations without swallowing the entire penis. Oral sex involves much more than just taking the whole thing into your mouth. There are various ways to explore and give pleasure, so don't worry about deep-throating or testing the limits of your gag reflex.

Having Sex With a Partner With a Big Dick

After plenty of foreplay, you'll feel much more aroused and ready to have a good time. When you're ready to start, cover both your vulva and his penis in copious amounts of premium water-based lubricant. Concentrate on the present, your partner, and the fantasies, desires, and sensations that thrill and excite you the most. Keep using the vibrator or the particular foreplay approach that feels wonderful to you. Instead of asking yourself "Will it fit?", try to keep your body aroused with sensation and pleasure throughout.

Remember, communication is key! Make sure you're communicating honestly at all times. Encourage your partner to move more slowly if you feel any discomfort, ask them to check in with you, and have them pay attention to your body's reactions. Tensing up, grimacing, or wincing all indicate you need to slow down.

If it initially seems a little tight, ask your partner to pause and wait a little as your body adjusts. Then slowly resume making out and any other activities that bring you the most excitement and pleasure. You want to warm up and ease into the act rather than thrust quickly in and out.

Best Sex Positions for Handling a Big Dick

To help you out further, certain sex positions are ideal for big dicks. Getting on top helps, because being on top lets you direct the motion and set your own pace, so we highly recommend it. You might also find your body responds better to other positions.

Side-by-side positions like spooning can be excellent, because they won't allow either of you to thrust too far. You can also hug and cuddle while doing so, which feels fantastic, gives extra skin-on-skin contact, and releases all those feel-good chemicals.

Experiment with your legs to find the position that makes you most comfortable. For some people, missionary is the most comfortable. Everybody is different, so try things out and see what feels best. Generally speaking, sex positions from behind tend to be more uncomfortable (especially if your partner tends to speed up).

Talk to your partner about taking it slow and communicating how you feel in the moment, so they can adjust their approach or focus on other areas of pleasure while your body adjusts. And remember, lube is extremely important!

Focus on Your Breathing and Let Go of Your Anxiety

Still nervous about taking a big dick? Breathe deeply and try to refocus your thoughts on the things that make you happy. Reaching orgasm is hard when you're swimming in anxiety. Know that you have complete control over the situation. There's no hurry and no pressure; you can pick the pace and take your time. Spend as much time as you need warming up and getting ready—your body will appreciate it!

It can also help to get into an erotic mindset. Set the scene with elements that make you feel good, such as gentle music, comfortable or sexy clothes, or soft lighting. It may seem silly, but our minds have a significant influence on how our bodies react. If slowness and sensuality aren't your thing, lean into a fantasy or add a BDSM twist to your activities. Playing a role in your head is one easy way to get your excitement going.

There are also periods during your cycle when your muscles will feel tighter, something you may notice especially if you do Kegels. At other times your vaginal walls will be more flexible (particularly around ovulation). During the tighter part of the month, take it extra slow and give your body the warm-up it needs, or accept that it might not be the ideal day, which is okay too!

Your body has more flexibility than you might realize. That means very few penises are truly too large; so even when it looks like his penis might not fit, your relationship isn't done for. You might discover that you enjoy how deeply a bigger partner can reach once you're aroused and relaxed. Use your new knowledge wisely, and double up on the foreplay!

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